Can I add that in my opinion (for what that's worth) a completely stock (but not worn) 440 is safe up to 6500rpm as long as it is;
a) Under load at the time i.e. not in the burnout or not in neutral at the time.
b) Only at that high rpm for a very short time on each shift.
6500rpm will be about 128mph.
Your friend's big torque 509 will slip a lot with a 3500 stall converter. The more torque you have the smaller the stall speed you need.
Your engine has less torque so it will not. You know my engine has a similar cam (but with more torque) and even mine drives normally with a 3000-3200rpm stall. I am sure yours will be fine.